Dating in college is not a good idea
Why do married people assume it's just too much stress to be newly married and in college at the same time? As much as I can see the reasons for delaying marriage, I also see the reasons not to.
Presumably if you do wait and get married after graduation, then you'll have the stress of starting a new marriage and new jobs at the same time. Since you're already hearing all the reasons you shouldn't and can't get married before graduation, I'm going to make the case for why you should, or at least could.
While it's possible to date for a long time and remain pure, it's not easy. I realize this approach isn't for everyone, and I know the conventional wisdom says school first, then marriage.
But I read stories like yours and wonder Why can't two adults study and be married at the same time?
My boyfriend plans on proposing late next year so that we don't have such a long engagement (we both know people try to justify a lot of things when they are engaged, and we wanted to avoid that).
Should we continue dating for the next two years while we wait for our marriage date to roll around?
Many people have commented that we are truly a blessing to each other, and our relationship has allowed us to contribute more greatly to our church and small groups.
Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated.
But it's not just our grandparents who married young.
More and more people are making the case that there are benefits to not delaying.
Our parents like our relationship and have been very open and honest, critiquing when they find areas in need of improvement.
We have not fallen into sexual sin, and we are regularly held accountable by our pastor as well as both of our parents.
As I read your letter, I wondered what it would look like if you were free to put all the energy you're expending on avoiding sexual sin into making a good marriage?